14 Signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you

by Rosemarie Hardison
signs she doesn't want a relationship with you

Learning and interpreting the signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you is actually good.

Surprised? This makes sense. The earlier you understand these signs, the less you will waste your time and energy. This means that you’ll make yourself available for someone else.

In this article, I’ll share the top signs showing that she’s not interested. So, buckle up and keep reading.

14 Signs She Doesn’t Want a Relationship With You

I’ve often felt attracted to women based on the way they look, act, or behave, and I would immediately pull up my all prince-charming behavior, hoping for the best. But then comes the phase of the mixed signal, and if you’ve been in the dating scene, you know that it’s no fun.

Yet, the cool thing I learned from these situations is that a maybe is usually no. Harsh, but it’s better than wasting my energy trying to impress someone who clearly doesn’t want me.

So, whether she’s unavailable, doesn’t see you as a catch, or is just not ready, makes no difference. But the earlier you spot these signs, the better it is for everyone.

It’s better for you because you’ll stop pouring into a relationship that, obviously, will never take off. It’s better for her if she has difficulty saying no, and it’s better for the next woman around the corner, who could be the one for you.

Some of these signs are easy to detect on the first encounter, while others can even be noticed when you’re both chatting or talking on the phone. So, let’s check them out.

1.    She Doesn’t Care About How She Looks

There’s a difference between a woman who likes to look natural and a woman who comes to the date looking messy. If she doesn’t put effort into looking her best before meeting you, she probably doesn’t feel this is going anywhere.

2.    You Feel That You Run the Conversation

Do you feel that you’re the one keeping the conversation going, whether you’re chatting or having a face-to-face conversation? It takes two to tango, and if the woman doesn’t try to keep the conversation going, she’s probably not interested.

So, if you’re the one asking all the questions, bringing up new topics, and she’s just giving short answers, then maybe it’s time to face the hard truth.

3.    She’s Not Paying Attention

If you meet a woman who’s constantly checking her phone, looking around, or acting as if she’d rather be somewhere else, then she’s probably not attracted to you. On the other hand, a woman who wants to be with you will be focused on what you’re doing and saying.

4.    She Doesn’t Ask Questions

If a woman is interested in you, she’ll ask questions. Women tend to be curious about who they view as potential partners. So, she will ask you about your family, work, and previous relationships.

She’ll first be attracted to the mystery that surrounds you as a person she doesn’t know. However, if she makes no attempt to learn anything about you, move on.

5.    She Avoids Eye Contact

Eye contact is a great way to bond with others and also triggers the production of oxytocin, the love hormone. So, if a woman likes you, she’ll try to maintain eye contact. On the other hand, if she’s looking somewhere else, there’s a great chance she’s not attracted to you.

6.    She’s Not Smiling

A woman will smile at your jokes, even the lame ones, if she thinks you’re cool. As a matter of fact, you can tell a lot about how a woman is feeling by looking at her face. If there’s always a smile on her face while you’re talking, then you might have a chance with her. Otherwise, it’s time to let it go.

7.    She Responds Negatively to Subtle Touches

This sign will be obvious after a few dates. If a woman sees herself in a future relationship with you, she’ll feel comfortable when you touch her. This doesn’t mean she would respond to you if you tried to grab her in public, as this can be a turn-off.

But if you subtly touch her hand while you’re having a drink or if you give her a hug, she won’t move back.

signs she doesn't want a relationship with you

8.    She’s Not Interested In Anything You Care About

Now this one is a bit tricky. The woman of your dreams doesn’t have to care about everything you care about, but she can still understand its importance.

So, if you’re a sports fan, and she’s not that much into sports, she would still appreciate your passion for games. But, if she thinks that it’s lame or not important, then maybe she’s not the one for you because you don’t have a lot in common.

9.    She Mentions She’s Not Ready For a Relationship

When a woman doesn’t feel the chemistry between the two of you, she’ll mention that she isn’t ready to date or looking for a relationship. Of course, the truth is that she might be, and she was hoping that you’d be the one who was going to change her status from single to taken, but she just didn’t feel it.

10.   She Mentions Other Guys

She might accidentally bring up a guy from work or her childhood best friend, and this is normal. But, if she keeps on talking about one particular guy all the time, then there might be something to worry about.

Whether it’s an ex or someone she hasn’t been with, this could be the man she actually wants to have a relationship with.

11.   She Always Cancels Plans

Life happens, and your lady might cancel a plan once or twice. But if she always does or never reschedules, there’s a big chance she’s not into you.

Even if she’s the busiest woman in the world, she’d still make time to meet and catch up. However, if this never happens, then she might not be interested in having a relationship with you.

12.   She Avoids Spending Alone Time With You

At the beginning of your relationship, she might be a bit skeptical about coming over or inviting you to her house. But if she always refuses to hang out with you unless there are other people involved, she might not be that interested in you.

If a woman likes you, she will try to spend more time with you. Otherwise, she might be lonely, and she might see you as a cool person but not a potential romantic partner.

13.   She Doesn’t Get Jealous

A woman who is interested in you will get jealous of any other girl you mention, even if she’s just a colleague or a friend. She’ll ask questions and try to get to know them. If this doesn’t happen, then she’s not into you.

14.   She Only Shows Up When She Needs Something

Some women won’t cut it off with you, even if they see it not going anywhere. But, she would always maintain contact with you, so she can text or call you at random times to ask for a favor.

This woman isn’t interested in you, but she sees that you’re a good and helpful person. It’s time to face the truth and know that you’re not her number-one guy.

Wrap Up

Dating is a tricky business, mostly because people don’t always say what’s on their minds. Yet, I hope my guide will help you on your next dates.

There’s more than one person for each of us. So if you haven’t met yours yet, this doesn’t mean you should give up. There are a lot of good people and potential partners out there, and the right person might be just around the corner.

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